Why should we settle for anything less Dan 16 June, 2008 - 2:10 PM

Why should we settle for anything less than the perfect man for us? Who said that because I am not interested in one man doesn't mean he isn't right for the girl walking around the corner or getting off the bus up the road? And who said because I am not attracted to him makes me too picky or too hung up on myself?

Over the last few weeks, I have been out with a few men on dates and I didn't really click with any of them, romantically. I have been single for a while now and haven't clicked with anyone on that level for a long time. But why does it mean that I have to settle for the first available man that comes my way?

I have been ridiculed, I have been told I am no perfect catch, that my nose is too big, I have been told I don't deserve to be happy because I refuse to settle with the first guy I go out with, oh and that because I am 30 I can't afford to be picky! Well I am here to tell you that it doesn't have to be that way and you are never too old or young, pretty or short or whatever to wait for the perfect man. Because your Mr Right, is just that... Yours!!

I went out with this really great man on Thursday night. We went to the White Collar Boxing Charity Ball. It was a black tie event so we were all dressed up. He looked great in his tux and I felt beautiful and happy being the girl on his arm. I thought we made a very cute couple. He was the perfect gentleman. I also met his friends, who are just lovely by the way and you can tell a lot about someone by their friends. He is a pretty cool guy. We met on my second Sick of Single Date.

Now as you can tell I do like him, but at this stage we are just dating and I want to keep it that way for the time being. I am not playing games I am merely keeping my options open, it's only been 2 dates. You may think that sounds like I'm waiting for something or someone better to come along? Well no, not necessarily but I have been in too many bad relationships (and when I say bad, I mean bad) to jump in head first and put another notch on my belt. Let's just say I am emotionally protecting myself. Is that a bad thing?

We spend our lives watching movies about romance, listening to music about love and reading books about relationships so one would think we would all be pretty well prepared for finding our perfect partner, yet we get it so wrong most of the time.

I can't help but wonder that if I am not prepared to give it all up straight away for this guy does that mean he is not my Mr Right? Because at the end of the day, I want my Mr Right, not Mr Right-Now and I wont settle for anything less.

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• Carol says

  Couldn't agree more Dan you stick to you're guns and don't let the b***ards get you down

  Posted Monday 16 June, 2008 2:11 PM
• joanna says

  You know from the very start if it's love. If it's not - dump him!

  Posted Monday 16 June, 2008 6:52 PM
• shazza78 says

  You go Dan! Stick to your guns girlfriend. You speak for all of us!

  Posted Tuesday 17 June, 2008 9:46 AM
• jules says

  Dan I have been listening nd reading about your story from the beginning, and i think you have extremely high standards and just quietly, good luck ever finding anyone with an attitude like yours. Seriously! Loosen up a little and you might actually meet someone.

  Posted Wednesday 18 June, 2008 12:26 PM
• melgal says

  You stick to your guns girl! Don't listen to what they say. You have every right to wait for the perfect guy. No need to jump in to something with the first available man that comes your way. You're single, sexy, smart and you look like you know how to have a good time, so wait it out. Your Mr Right will turn up one day soon...

  Posted Thursday 19 June, 2008 1:36 PM
• The BFG says

  Hey theren Dan!

  well I cant agree anymore about what yhou have said. I am in the same boat! re: single 30 year old male in perth and have been for a little while now.
  I respect what you do so keep going.

  Posted Saturday 21 June, 2008 11:16 AM
• J_Ro says

  You go Dan!! Congrats on putting yourself out there again. I know how hard it is to do! I am 29 and have been single for 18 months since leaving my abusive husband. I am finding it very hard to get out there and start dating again. You are young...go for it! I totally believe there is a Mr/Miss Perfect for everyone, some just take a little longer to find. Good Luck!!

  Posted Thursday 18 September, 2008 4:19 PM

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